Summary
In this episode, Rod Richard interviews Nick Adams, author of the book 'Being the Dad You Wish You Had: Five Stones for Effective Fatherhood.' They discuss the different stages of fatherhood and the roles fathers play at each stage. Nick emphasizes the importance of being an effective father by helping children navigate the path to adulthood. He introduces the concept of the five stones of effective fatherhood, which include the power of being a father, modeling the way, being lovable, self-reliance, and self-mastery. Nick also shares his plans for his next book, which will explore healthy masculinity. In this conversation, Nick Adams discusses the differences in raising boys and girls, the importance of presence as a father, creating a mental commute to separate work and home life, the infinite game of fatherhood, what fatherhood means to him, and the messages he wants to give to all fathers and his own children.
Takeaways
Fatherhood is about raising adults, not just children.
Effective fatherhood involves understanding the different roles fathers play at each stage of their children's lives.
The five stones of effective fatherhood are the power of being a father, modeling the way, being lovable, self-reliance, and self-mastery.
Masculinity is a complex topic that needs to be explored and defined in a healthy way.
Being transparent and owning up to mistakes is an important aspect of being a father. Raising boys and girls can be different, but the core principles of love, presence, and modeling good behavior remain the same.
Being present for your children is crucial, and finding ways to disconnect from work and be emotionally available is important.
Creating a mental commute can help separate work and home life, allowing you to be fully present for your family.
Fatherhood is an ongoing relationship of mentoring, guiding, loving, and supporting your children.
The messages for all fathers are that they are important in their children's lives and have the power to change the world through their interactions.
The message for his own children is that he loves them unconditionally and will always be there for them.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
01:15 Guest Introduction and Background
03:41 Transition to Authoring and Inspiration for the Book
05:25 Definition of an Effective Father
06:06 Raising Children to be Adults
07:42 Different Roles of Fathers at Different Stages of Childhood
10:46 Transition to Coaching Role in Teenage Years
12:41 Disciplinarian, Teacher, Coach, Friend
14:48 Difference Between Teaching and Coaching
18:55 Importance of Being Lovable as a Father
20:15 Introduction to the Five Stones of Effective Fatherhood
23:27 The Power of Being a Father
24:25 Modeling the Way
24:55 Being Lovable
25:13 Self-Reliance and Self-Mastery
32:08 Introduction to the Second Book on Masculinity
33:34 Exploring Healthy Masculinity
41:48 Differences in Raising Boys and Girls
48:36 The Importance of Presence
52:52 Creating a Mental Commute
58:26 The Infinite Game of Fatherhood
59:06 What Fatherhood Means
01:03:17 Message for All Fathers
01:04:56 Message for His Children
